Relationship Poems

Often times, I’ll share poems with my clients & couples/dyads at the end of session if I feel they may benefit from it or it is applicable to what they are experiencing.

Poems can be powerful as they can help us connect to our own experiences, feelings, and thoughts.

It can also help us heal by encouraging us to express ourselves in a way that’s congruent to us. Perhaps through our own writing or journaling.

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relationship poems

Relationships & Love

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  • credits to Nikki Giovanni

  • credits to Derek Walcott

  • credits to Frida Kahlo

  • “I really like you, Midori. A lot.”

    “How much is a lot?”

    “Like a spring bear,” I said.

    “A spring bear?” Midori looked up again. “What’s that all about? A spring bear.”

    “You’re walking through a field all by yourself one day in spring, and this sweet little bear cub with velvet fur and shiny little eyes comes walking along. And he says to you, “Hi, there, little lady. Want to tumble with me?’ So you and the bear cub spend the whole day in each other’s arms, tumbling down this clover-covered hill. Nice, huh?”

    “Yeah. Really nice.”

    “That’s how much I like you.”

    ― Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood

  • “... the only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are - not smarter, not cooler, but kinder and more generous, and more forgiving - and then appreciate them for what they can teach you, and try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad - or good - it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.”

    ― Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life

  • I choose to love you in silence…

    For in silence I find no rejection,

    I choose to love you in loneliness…

    For in loneliness no one owns you but me,

    I choose to adore you from a distance…

    For distance will shield me from pain,

    I choose to kiss you in the wind…

    For the wind is gentler than my lips,

    I choose to hold you in my dreams…

    For in my dreams, you have no end.

    ― Rumi

  • Don’t say that I will depart tomorrow —

    even today I am still arriving.

    Look deeply: every second I am arriving

    to be a bud on a Spring branch,

    to be a tiny bird, with still-fragile wings,

    learning to sing in my new nest,

    to be a caterpillar in the heart of a flower,

    to be a jewel hiding itself in a stone.

    I still arrive, in order to laugh and to cry,

    to fear and to hope.

    The rhythm of my heart is the birth and death

    of all that is alive.

    I am the mayfly metamorphosing

    on the surface of the river.

    And I am the bird

    that swoops down to swallow the mayfly.

    I am the frog swimming happily

    in the clear water of a pond.

    And I am the grass-snake

    that silently feeds itself on the frog.

    I am the child in Uganda, all skin and bones,

    my legs as thin as bamboo sticks.

    And I am the arms merchant,

    selling deadly weapons to Uganda.

    I am the twelve-year-old girl,

    refugee on a small boat,

    who throws herself into the ocean

    after being raped by a sea pirate.

    And I am the pirate,

    my heart not yet capable

    of seeing and loving.

    I am a member of the politburo,

    with plenty of power in my hands.

    And I am the man who has to pay

    his “debt of blood” to my people

    dying slowly in a forced-labor camp.

    My joy is like Spring, so warm

    it makes flowers bloom all over the Earth.

    My pain is like a river of tears,

    so vast it fills the four oceans.

    Please call me by my true names,

    so I can hear all my cries and my laughter at once,

    so I can see that my joy and pain are one.

    Please call me by my true names,

    so I can wake up,

    and so the door of my heart

    can be left open,

    the door of compassion.

    —Thich Nhat Hanh

  • credits to Raymond Carver